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Yoga is more than a child’s pose

Good Morning my friends! In honor of National Yoga Awareness Month I chose to join George Washington University School of Public Health Blogging Contest.

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 I don’t talk too much about my own journey on this blog. Perhaps, that is something I will reconsider in future posts. I mention briefly about my past struggle with an eating disorder, anxiety and depression and rarely get into details. I think it’s because I find it difficult to write about it, when I feel as though it was someone else experiencing that life. I feel I am an outsider looking in, when the words of my past are written on paper. That is, until recently…

It was a rainy day here in DC. I was late, rushing around to get to a yoga class that has been on my “To Do” list for over a year now. The irony of a centuries-old favorite practice that promises to relieve stress and quiet the mind, was acting as my current source of stress: Making it to yoga on time. I parked far away from the gym door, as it must have been a packed class. Figures! Everyone from my favorite barista (hi, Brenda!) to my mailman is giving yoga a try lately. Now, usually I am the last person to advise anyone (myself included) to follow the herd. But the amount of people who are enjoying yoga suggested to me that there’s something to it. Whatever it was, I am too curious of a person to not find out. After all, if I didn’t like it, at least I would know why.

Okay back to that day…my first yoga class. After parking far away, I pulled a clever James Bond’s maneuver. I decided to run through the parking lot, twisting and turning, as a short cut to the double doors where I’d enter into warmth and dryness the fastest possible way.  I grabbed my rubber yoga mat (used it as a shield for my head from the rain) and ran.

BOOM! As I was busy looking down at my feet trying to dodge deep puddles, I missed another  yogi attempting to step out into the rain herself. My knee and shoulder hit her door as she opened it and I bounced backwards onto another vehicle. This was not how James Bond’s story would have ended…

I apologized to the girl (after all, I should have been the one looking where I was going), wobbled into the gym and saw the ugly purplish bumps forming on my knee and elbow. I was in pain and ready to skip the class, but the idea of going back out in the cold and rain (especially now that I was unable to run it) was not happening. So I gritted my teeth and entered the room of mats and poses.

The teacher asked us to come from a place of intention. She asked us to think of a life lesson that we may be needing to learn at this moment in our lives. As I attempted a crooked pigeon pose, the throbbing of my recent injuries were reminding me that I need to slow down! Here I was, rushing around in life. Trying to get everything done and be everywhere for everyone. I am a busy body. For those that know me, I love life and I try to live it as fully as possible. After all, this is it you guys. Our life is happening NOW! We only get one, so make it a good one.

But maybe this centuries-old practice is on to something. Perhaps, my run in (literally) this morning was a reminder to Slow Down and Breathe. To do less…GASP! What a concept I haven’t visited recently. Do less? How will I begin to do so? I wish I could say that I had a storybook ending from that class. No, I didn’t have all the answers after that class. I didn’t have a big revelation. But I did have loosened ligaments, more flexibility and some things to think about. I also had the desire to return for another class.

Shortly after, I was gifted a Groupon package for yoga classes. Oh the generous gift giver had no idea about my past attempt with yoga and how I planned to re-gift this yoga package the moment I opened the envelope. But I decided this was another lesson to be learned in life. So I went weekly.

As others would be in pose on their mats and in deep thought, I would be squirming and day dreaming about what I had to do once the class ended. Others would leave class relaxed and refreshed. I left class neurotic and just waiting to pack up my mat and tackle my “to do” list. In one particular class, we were told to get into child’s pose. It was then I felt it. No, not the tightness of my muscles. But it, the time of my life (my past) that I wanted to forget. The part of me that I wanted to stop writing about (after all, it’s many years later) and never wanted it to be mentioned again. It was that class, where in my crooked child’s pose, I felt a need to dig deeper into my old wounds and hurt. Since that class, I have been working on addressing things from my past that had hurt me and had me believing I was not enough. It is a journey of healing and I am grateful for it. 

Yoga has taught me to slow down and connect with myself. To accept parts of my past as being part of who I am today.

Your turn: How has yoga affected YOU?

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

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Turning Over a New Leaf

Good Morning my friends! How is your morning going? I am enjoying a piping hot cup of creamy coffee and wrapped up in a cozy snuggly blanket. Just how I like to start out my early mornings in the fall. Did I mention the smell of pumpkin has filled the house? Yes, it is pumpkin mania over here and I am enjoying all things pumpkin related.

Since it is officially fall (we are experiencing the cool fall like weather this week), I want to share with you something I like doing every fall. Besides my love for everything pumpkin flavored, sweater wearing, basketball watching cliché, I add something special to my Fall Bucket List…I take time to assess personal changes I’d like to implement for the new season. I consider fall a chance to “turn over a new leaf”.

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Some leaves I’ll be turning over this fall:

Work on showing empathy and understanding to others. This is something that is always a work in progress, the bucket is never full and there is never enough. This is something that we can continually work on throughout our lives. I genuinely FEEL lots of empathy and understanding for others, which is why I love helping others so much. But we can’t make change occur purely out-of-the-way we FEEL. So I continue to focus on demonstrating the empathy and understanding I have for others. One of my main goals for my son is to teach him to be kind and compassionate to others, even the ones who are too hurt to treat us with the same respect. Kindness goes a long way; you can never have or show too much.

Join a cheering squad. This is along the same lines as the above. Choose someone in your life who could use a little encouragement. Sometimes a little, “Hey I have been thinking about you and hoping you are doing well” can go a looonnng way!

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Work on self kindness as well. This means working on little things that I may tell myself throughout the day, “Ugh, why did you do/didn’t that?” and “You could have done better”. As well as showing more patience to myself. Yes, self assessing realistically is critical for self growth, but there is a difference between self assessing and being critical and bully like towards yourself.

Gain momentum with my 2014 goals. I’m really excited to be learning and experiencing the research side of psychology, and also some huge (!) and exciting projects that are around the corner in 2015.

Your turn:

What leaves are you turning over this fall?

What’s something you want to change? Something you want to continue?

 I always love to hear your thoughts!

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Do you conform?

Good Morning my friends! How was your weekend? This morning I am buzzing about (partly due to my morning cup of coffee) because I have to quickly head out for work. We are working on a research project that I am currently devoting most of my time to. I love studying psychology. I love being engrossed in the scientific study of the human mind and its functions. I’m currently learning more about the research side of things and so far I’m  LOVING IT!

Now, on to the reason I am writing today…

I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT OUR NEW GROUP.

We took a few weeks to implement a  new online support group and things are going great. There is still time for you to be a part of it as well. You can email me at JennB@BeYouAtBeMe.com if you are wanting to join this supportive community.

Before I go, I’d like to leave you with one of my favorites!

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Have an amazing day my friends!

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Never Forget

 

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It’s hard to believe it was already 13 years ago. I feel like I remember that day SO clearly. Let us take a moment today to be especially grateful for our military troops, policeman, and firefighters, and for everything they do on a day to day basis. Let’s raise our flags today in remembrance of all the people who lost their lives on that tragic September day back in 2001. Sending love and hugs to those of you that may have lost loved ones.

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

 

How the 5 Love Languages Changed My Relationships

Good Morning my friends! How are you spending this lovely holiday weekend? With the extra time off, I have something special to share with you and hope you may find it useful.

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Have you heard of The Five Love Languages? According to this theory, they are as follows:

Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

Every person feels uniquely loved in one of these ways. Specifically, the way you feel loved is also the way you show love.

For instance, one of my Love Language is Acts of Service, which makes sense because I strongly agree with the notion that,”actions speak louder than words”. A kind and thoughtful act goes a long way for me and it aligns with the way I show appreciation for other people. An “Let me do that for you” after a long day makes me feel acknowledged and loved and I like to do the same in return.

The disconnect can lie in the fact that those we love may have a different language than our own. Your partner, friend, parent or child’s love language can be something you aren’t used to expressing. For example, someone I love can have the Love Language, Words of Affirmation, which means my Acts of Service will not have the same impact on them. Instead, an ”I love you” or “job well done” would make them feel acknowledged for things they’re doing right and they would like to do the same in return.

I’m curious to know what your love language is (take the test here), and how you’ve reconciled having a different language from your loved ones, a partner, friendship and parent/child relationships!

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**Disclaimer: This post includes information on physical exercise. I recommend you skip this post and return tomorrow if you’re struggling with overexercising and/or use it as a means to purge. As always, please consult your physician and treatment team before starting any physical activity.**

Good Morning my friends! How was your weekend? I hope you took some time to do something enjoyable. I mentioned on Saturday, I was taking the afternoon to sit down and sort out my thoughts on a topic that has been weighing heavily on my heart for months.  I feel strongly about all of us learning to use our voices and expressing our true selves. So here goes…

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“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”.

Almost two years ago, I had the pleasure of working with an eating disorder clinician and being coworkers for over a year. I enjoyed my work at the center greatly and learned a lot! There were some kinks to be sorted out and I’m no longer there, which is unfortunate. While working together, I got to know her pretty well and she got to know me…well…actually, only parts of me that she wanted to see…not my true identity.

While getting to know one another, she noticed my strong passion for running and she judged me for it. She also knew that I struggled with an eating disorder in the past. However, she couldn’t look past my prior struggle and failed to see me for me. Rather, she judged me and concluded that I was relapsing, because I loved running so much. This hurt me.

If she had taken the time to learn about me instead of filing me under “woman relapsed due to overexercising” she would have been able to know the truth…

My passion for running is one passion of mine.  I am an eating disorder survivor, a speaker, a writer, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a board member for an eating disorders nonprofit organization called MentorCONNECT and so much more! If she had taken the time to listen and hear my story, she may have learned this.

Today, I am healthy, fully nourished, and a strong athlete. My ability to train properly and to achieve my race goals is a reality only because of my recovery. 

**Side note: Remember that getting to the starting line is very difficult, and even impossible,  to do if you are still actively engaging in an eating disorder, dieting or overexercising. Again, I reinforce to you that I can be at the starting line now because I am recovered.**

Before the eating disorder came into my life, I was purely being me. I raced and won and even broke school records. I had lots of energy and speed. I had a passion and a talent. I was being recruited for the Junior Olympics and loved every minute, mile, and step that I have logged on my feet since birth. And there is nothing wrong with having this passion. Overexercising or using exercise, as a means to purge were never an issue in my ED days. Running was my joy,  and living a life with ED, was dark and joyless life…so naturally running was not happening.

Personally, I chose to take  a long break from running after ED stole it from me. I was well into recovery before purchasing a new pair of sneakers and stepping back onto the track. I also had the assistance of a coach and nutritionist to guide me and be on my team to war against ED, if he decided to creep back into the picture.

I like to say I was being responsible in my recovery. The above mentioned clinician, saw it as though I still struggled.

I wonder…

Can an eating disorder survivor not reach out to experts in their fields to help them be the athlete they are meant to be?!

This clinician doubted my recovery, my passions and me.

Again, She heard two things, “a woman with a prior eating disorder” and an “avid runner”. She chose to ignore any further explanation and in her mind I remained  “a woman who had relapsed”. This is sad, very sad. My true identity was invisible to her.  I was not being seen for the beautiful woman I am. Not to mention the rock star runner : )

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Remember my friends, recovery is about being YOU. You can be who you have been created to Be.When you are living a life free from an eating disorder. You have opportunities, choices and freedom. Please don’t let anyone’s judgement hurt you or have you doubting yourself.

I think it is beautiful to have a woman whom is an eating disorder survivor, whom is  being herself and no longer influenced by anxiety, depression or an eating disorder. A woman who is enjoying her life passions and living fully is a beautiful blessing in my book. To be able to return to activities that were part of her identity before the eating disorder is another blessing and even a miracle, because it means she healed from complications associated with the disorder and continues to run responsibly.

Again, I wonder…

Should we avoid certain activities if we are an Eating Disorder Survivor?

Should we not speak about our passions if they involve a sport?

Should we dim that part of ourselves to make others judge us less and accept us more?

NO.

Be who you have been created to be. I have been a “runner” since I could walk. I will not allow another person’s judgmental mind, shame me for being one. I’ll see you at the starting line!

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Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Watch Me : )

Good Morning my friends! I hope you had a great week and have some fun and relaxation planned for the weekend.

I just wanted to drop in real quick and leave you with this

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I cannot tell you how many people in my life have told me there were things that I can’t do, shouldn’t do and  wouldn’t do. Ha! Man, did I put on a show for them to watch. I went and did all those things because I deeply and honesty wanted to. None of them were hurtful to myself or others.

Remember, that others may express concern for various reasons. If the concern is coming from someone you trust, listen to what they are saying and rethink your idea. If it’s truly something that will benefit you in a healthy way (non ED way) then do it.

Today, I’m taking some time to write up a post that I have been meaning to write for months now. I was afraid to write it and some have told me not to. But after much time, I know this message weighs on my heart and by writing it, I am being Me. My intentions in doing so are not to hurt another or myself. Will you do the same this weekend? Will you choose one thing that fills your heart with joy and feels “right”?

Alright, I’m off to enjoy this beautiful weather. I hope the weather is nice where you are. I’ll be back on Monday with that post. Have a great weekend!

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Equine Therapy

Good Morning my friends. I hope you had an amazing weekend and are ready for the week ahead.

As some of you may have already known, there are some treatment centers that I truly believe in, one being The Recovery Village. Earlier this year, I had the pleasure of getting some of my questions answered with an interview that you can read here. And I am excited to share with you that they are now offering Equine Therapy! Read below to learn more.

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“In keeping with our focus on highly individualized, evidenced-based care, The Recovery Village is proud to offer Equine Therapy through S.A.D.L.E.S. (Self, Acceptance, Discovery, Learning, Empowerment and Success). Working closely with the patient’s primary treatment team, S.A.D.L.E.S. integrates the unique aspects of equine therapy into the patient’s customized care plan. S.A.D.L.E.S. is staffed by equine therapists who are certified in mental health and learning, PATH certified therapeutic riding instructors and a licensed clinical social worker with advanced psychotherapy experience. 

Equine assisted therapy is a holistic treatment approach that utilizes a combination of psychotherapy, relaxation and breath training, through equine care, rhythmic riding and groundwork, to help eating disorder and substance abuse patients achieve emotional healing, spiritual balance and physical wellness. Equine assisted psychotherapy is a measurable and effective way to treat the underlying issues that often accompany eating disorders and substance abuse. Studies show that patients who struggle with wide variety of underlying mental health disorders, including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anger and conflict issues, fear, sadness and feelings of confusion benefit from the therapeutic time spent interacting with horses. Equine assisted therapy is a measurable and successful complement to our more traditional therapies.

Equine therapy involves teaching patients to recognize and appreciate their developing physical strength and abilities. Overall physical and emotional wellness is an important end result of developing a relationship during riding and caring for horses. In addition, equine therapy involves group experiential interactions, shared in a peaceful and natural environment. 

Equine psychotherapy and learning is practiced using the same professional ethics and best practice standards that more traditional approaches utilize. S.A.D.L.E.S. has partnered with the University of Central Florida, College of Medicine, in a cooperative research relationship to study the long-term effects of equine therapy in combat injured veterans.”

Questions about the program? You can contact Kristin by calling 813-494-5143 or by sending an email to kreagan@therecoveryvillage.com.

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Seriously?!

Good Morning my friends. I’d like to address the seriousness of an eating disorder. Recently on Facebook, there have been several beautiful women whom have passed away. Their lives were taken by this awful disease. My prayers are with their families and friends.

**For anyone needing support, please know Be Me is here to help in any way that we can, our “door” is always open.**

Every year that passes in my own recovery, I feel grateful for being a survivor. I feel sad for those who aren’t here to join me on the side of Recovery, living a healthy and happy life. Perhaps, this is one reason why I give my heart to helping others survive and live life to the fullest. I fight hard and continue to advocate for change. What these women had to experience (suffering from an eating disorder)  was hell. And  I will do all that I can to help others from having to experience hell.

On several occasions, when I meet someone new and tell them about my non -profit organization, Be Me,  or mention my own past, the person will say something like, “I wish I had that problem.  I’d like to lose 20 (or 40 or whatever) pounds.” Seriously?!  People have died from this!  Do others really think an eating disorder is just an extreme diet?! A choice?!

These comments are not funny nor are they helpful for those struggling with this deadly disease, and for the friends and families of those suffering.

Last year at EDC Lobby Day, I had the chance to speak with Members of Congress and push for policy making related to eating disorders. As we were preparing to start the day, a curious stranger passing by stopped me and said, “I guess you can tell by looking at my stomach, that I’m definitely not anorexic. I love food too much”. Hmmm…Again, Seriously?! Does this man really think a person struggling with anorexia doesn’t actually enjoy food and the disease is controlling them. They just don’t refuse to eat, it’s deeper and more complex than that!

Personally, I have encountered many breast cancer survivors and I wonder if this stranger would have used this humor to discuss cancer. Again, people die from this disease and this guy wants to make jokes?!

I used to go to  Cafe Press to order coffee mugs and t shirts for this site. That was before I found out that CafePress has a line of clothes with words that mock anorexia and bulimia. When Be Me complained to them, they became defensive and did not respond well. How come they don’t have shirts mocking cancer? Good thing they don’t!

But still…I had to wonder why this was the case…

Again, people died and are dying from this disease, and this company wants to make money by ridiculing the eating disorders that are killing people?!

I’ve had enough of this!

For those of you who know me, I am definitely not one to “stick my head in the sand” when it comes to something I am passionate about.

You won’t find me doing this…

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Instead, I’m doing this

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Please join me on Capitol Hill, September 30th.

We can create change by addressing eating disorders at the Federal level!

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Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Be uncomfortable!

Good morning my friends! How many of you are ready for an adventure? Even if you don’t feel ready, I encourage you to join me.

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Here’s how:

We are going to be stepping outside of our comfort zone. You may have heard it many times before…we can grow by doing so. You may feel uncomfortable at first when you are no longer doing what you always do, but instead trying something new. It’s okay.

Let me explain, think about the last time you did something you considered amazing. Something where you found yourself feeling excited and fulfilled. I will bet you that you were stepping out of your comfort zone and started off feeling a bit uncomfortable. Let’s do it again. Let’s get stepping and make more amazing memories.

Today, I am going to call a friend I haven’t spoken to in way too long. This is uncomfortable for me because I am pretty shy about reuniting with others. I’ll let you know how it goes!

Your turn:

Today, take a step out and share it with the rest of us (in the comments section below and on Facebook).

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

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