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Be YOU at Be Me, Inc. is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that aims to restore the beauty of a healthy life for women and men who suffer from disordered eating,body image issues, and/or addiction. The Be Me Fondation assists the community at large in providing free resources such as support groups, a Mentorship Program, advocacy, prevention, awareness, online meal support program and an active blog which encourages supportive discussions on recovery. 

This is NOT a site used to inspire you to become the "norm" and what others expect you to be. You will NOT find techniques to lose weight, gain muscle, or any other absurd techniques that have you altering yourself and your body. You will NOT find before and after photos tagged with a DIEt success story, or tips on how altering your looks, can get you to finally feel you're enough. You will NOT find that here EVER. These are lies and only truth resides here.  You will find words of encouragement, love, support and acceptance. 'Be Me' is focused on YOU finding yourself again through the love and acceptance of yourself and returning to you. The idea behind 'Be Me' is unity, love and including everyone. It is NOT an "It's all about me" motto, in the sense of being self centered, viewing oneself as separated from others. It's about being the Me I have been created to Be. I have been created to be love, compassion and one with all.

This is not an organization that will tell you how to get happiness and healing; rather, it's a guide to releasing the blocks to the happiness and healing that already lives inside YOU. 

A Great Start

There are many things in life that cannot be changed. For example, you cannot change your past or the genes you inherited. However, you can have peace of mind. when you come to accept them. I  know some common questions being asked are, "How do I do this? How do I accept my past, myself, others, etc.?"  
Good questions! This will take time, self discovery, willingness and support from others. It IS possible for you to have the peace of acceptance of self, happiness and healing.                        

A great start is to begin to look beyond your reflection in the mirror and taking a look at who YOU are on the inside. You will begin to discover yourself and say, "Oh, there I am, that's ME". You can find YOU underneath your perceived body flaws and any false beliefs you may have of you not being enough. You have the chance to look beyond any lies pressuring you to believe you need to look a certain way in order to accept yourself and be accepted by others.

You can dissolve the lies, leaving you to believe that you must achieve certain goals and successes before you can finally accept You and Be YOU. You can get to know YOU again and believe that being YOU, is more than enough, and  you will discover how much you mean in this world and how much we need YOU.

Sounds easy enough, right? Be prepared...Accepting a new journey, the journey to recovery and healing will be difficult. But will become easier over time and willingness, I promise. Just breathe, be willing and show up for the support and suggestions at Be Me along the way. I can testify to these tools because I work them full time : )
It is important to be patient with yourself, because 'Be Me' is proof this IS possible for YOU as well. 

Great Attempts with Good Intentions

Let's take a look at what life is like, when you are not Being YOU:

Scenario: You are experiencing a situation where you are feeling anxious, unsure, etc. You begin thinking to yourself, 'What is wrong with me? How can I be so stupid? I should have known better.'  You do everything within your power to avoid these uncomfortable feelings and thoughts.  You try so hard to replace your feelings of loneliness, pain, hurt, and shame with joy, love, and happiness. You try hard to find the strength within and declare that you are not going to allow these negative feelings to be apart of your life, instead you will do all that you can to rid them. You promise yourself that only happy feelings of joy are allowed in for now on. Your mantra is " Out with the old and In with the new." And you work very hard fighting off negative feelings in your life. Often times, feeling exhausted and overworked. 

Great attempts with good intentions. However, this is not possible to hold up for the rest of your life.  Life creates both positive and negative emotions for us and it is up to us to accept them and be human. For us to expect not feeling negative emotions, we are rejecting being human.

Disengage the Inner Drill Sergeant

To paint a picture for you, our negative emotions and thoughts can be viewed as an Inner Drill Sergeant (Fear, Addiction,  ED; eating disorder, Judge, and Critic). The Inner Drill Sergeant orders you to do more and orders you to play it safe while doing so, in case you fail. This Inner Drill Sergeant  is a pro at berating and deceiving you. It disguises itself as protective armor from the unknown, fear, and others who may hurt you. It gets you to believe you NEED to listen and obey it, so that you can stay strong, protected, and armed. It gets you to believe it is the only Inner Drill Sergeant that you can confide in, as it has taught you how to protect yourself and play it safe in this world. It gets you to believe it'll have your back, if you have its. The Inner Drill Sergeant promises a loyalty, that it does not deliver. This Sergeant feels and sounds so much like you, you believe it IS you. You believe you are telling yourself the truth. Beware: This Inner Drill Sergeant is very much a politician, it twists the truth and is known to lie. It tells you to be someone other than who you are.

Good News! By being aware of the Inner Drill Sergeant, gives you the ability to disengage from It. You can separate you from what is not you. You can reach a point where you are able to step aside and tell this Inner Drill Sergeant to "Quit it" and ordering it to leave you alone, so that you can live your life in freedom; the way it is meant to be lived. Its persistence with you, requires you to keep telling it to "Quit it".  And as it continues to persist (that pesky Inner Drill Sergeant) repeat "I am comfortable with Me" and "I will Be the Me, I was created to Be, nothing less", is vital. By doing so, you are consistently letting it know, you have chosen to no longer live life underneath its command. You let it know, it no longer has a strong say in your life.

Is this what it means to 'Be Me'?

YES. It means declaring to yourself, "I am going to Be Me". By doing so, you are choosing to accept who you are and learning how to be comfortable with yourself. To 'Be Me',  is to live a life without comparing yourself to others, feeling the need to be who others want and/or expect you to be., and to begin rebuilding an intimate and loving relationship with yourself. It is a commitment of choosing to be loved and accepted by YOU, first and foremost. This will be easy, because loving ourselves is innate. It's the Inner Drill Sergeant that has taught you how to un-love YOU. And we are going to help you release the blocks of the Inner Drill Sergeant to your healing, which is already living inside you. YOU have been created to be so much more than ruled by fear.

Whew. I know this is a lot to take in all at once. But this is IMPORTANT stuff. Let's get back to discovering YOU underneath all that armor the Drill Sergeant placed on you.

Think back on a time, where you found yourself comparing your job, body, strengths, flaws, failures, successes (Insert comparison here::                   ) to those of another person? Or maybe you caught yourself wishing you could magically be in somebody else's shoes, when your life begins to feel overwhelming and hopeless.  Or perhaps, you  have began to believe God skimped on your strengths, while managing to supply abundantly in your weaknesses. Or maybe you are experiencing feelings of shame. Shame as to where you are in life and/or who you are. Your Inner Drill Sergeant orders you to spend your time thinking that somewhere, somehow, you must have made the wrong choices to be where you are now.

Get to Know Yourself as a Whole Person

Do not confuse 'Be Me' with an "it's all about me" attitude. That is not what I am referring to here. 'Be Me' is about gaining an interest in yourself. Getting to know yourself as a whole person, minus the armor. Your mind has just been taken over by the  Inner Drill Sergeant and has weighed you down with its heavy armor (fear). 'Be Me' is about discovering and learning that YOU are NOT the critic, instead the critic has been interfering with your sense of self, of who you really are. 'Be Me' is being who you were born to Be. Declaring, "Today, I will be, who I was born to Be, I will Be Me.

Psalm 139:13 says, “You knit me together in my mother's womb”. You are unique and different, and there is nobody like you in the world, so why compare yourself to somebody else? God has a custom life just for you, and that means you don’t have to imitate someone else’s lifestyle! 

Truth be told, you cannot be YOU and trying to be what others are, at the same time. In fact, one of the greatest secrets of having happiness in your life is reconnecting with YOU. Just acknowledging that you struggle with not being you, can be painful, but it is the first step toward a change of a meaningful spiritual life.To begin discovering YOU, the first thing you have to do is stop comparing yourself to others.

The Bible says satisfaction comes from doing your best, not comparing yourself to others: “Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well and won’t need to compare himself with someone else” (Galatians 6:4 LB).

Take a self-examination. Do you compare your life, your home, your husband, your kids — even your lawn — to other people’s? This exam may reveal some surprises and show you that there are more important things to do than compare yourself or what you have to others...like BEing YOU.

When you strive to be the person God created you to be, you’ll find real meaning, purpose, fulfillment, and satisfaction. You can’t focus on your purpose while looking at other people.

'Be Me', is a commitment to discovering and learning how to accept YOU and be comfortable with YOU. It is to accept yourself AND grow. The focus is on accepting one self, without judging one self. With self acceptance, you can begin to be the You, that you were created to Be. AND it gets better, As ANAD states, "When we accept ourselves, we can also accept others".

The Importance of Acceptance

I love to express how important acceptance is when I decide to 'Be Me'. Each day, I choose to accept myself with where I am NOW. I declare,  "I will Be Me today".  I am loving, patient and honest when doing so (All qualities the Inner Drill Sergeant does not hold).  I am enough right now, just as I am. I deserve love and acceptance, for being me. I  give myself love when the Inner Drill Sergeant creeps in to berate and/or deceive  me. I no longer fear the disapproval or judgment of others.  I know, I may not please everyone, and that is OKAY. I accept that others may let me down and may not always be dependable. And that is OKAY.They are human, just as I am. We are all doing the best we can, right now. Love can begin to heal any fears I may have to 'Be Me-ier". Hope keeps me passionate to Being the Me that I have been created to Be.

The 'Be Me'  pledge is as follows. I urge you to take this step to begin learning who YOU are and accepting YOU for being YOU.

I (insert your name here) am a beautiful person. I accept my strengths and weaknesses, I accept All of me. I accept others for who they are and can be of service to them. I open my real self (the 'Be Me' self) to others without fear of judgment. I invite God to be with me wherever I go. I no longer wait and sit tight, for life to happen. I am the person God has created me to be. Today I will Be Me.

My Message: You are a Gift

Many of you may be questioning me right now. You may be thinking, "This won't work for me, maybe others can be comfortable with themselves, but not me. I can't just 'Be Me', what does Jenn know? She has no idea of my background, the mistakes, or bad choices I have made."

Now listen, you are completely right. Please do one thing, take in a deep breath and exhale.  Look down at your hands and look at one of your thumbs.  Look closely at the infinite lines and patterns that swirl together to create your fingerprint. Isn’t that proof enough that you are a uniqueness that’s all your own?  Isn't this proof enough that there is only one you? Your thumbprint cannot be replicated, You are a gift - A gift that is up to you to accept.

Believe with all your heart that you will Be who you were created to Be.

Lots of Love and support to you,

Jenn  B .

Your thoughts turn into actions.
Your actions turn into habits.
Your habits turn into your character.
Your character turns into your destiny.
Your thoughts are not Ed's, there are no room for his in your life!